I really want to talk about something and why I was prompted to talk about this is that every week I pull a health card for myself and today’s card was my body responds quickly to my patterns of belief and I was like, oh, I need to talk about this. Why do I need to talk about this? Because it’s true. Our thought patterns, our beliefs, our focus is what gets attracted to us. So maybe you are sitting there and you are just miserable. You have an angry toddler in your shoulder like I have, or maybe your back is sore or your, you know, some of the ask you, good morning, how are you feeling today? And you want to just give them the middle finger and say, ah, screw you. You know how I feel?
I slept like crap because I couldn’t get comfortable. My body hurts top to bottom, but you hold back and use mutter out the word, “FINE”. What the heck does fine mean? Then you start getting in this pattern of like now they’ve brought up like for you to check in and how you feel and now you’re sitting there like, oh my goodness, my legs are sore, my feet hurt. They can’t. They don’t even want to touch the floor. My shoulder is on fire. I am just miserable. My head hurts, my body hurts.
Why? Why am I going through this? So immediately? Just because someone you love and someone that loves you asked you how you felt today. Now you’re changing your immediate beliefs for that day by checking in with your body, but not checking in with the positive parts. You have immediately gone to the belief system that this day is going to be crap cause your body already hurts.
Well, guess what? That’s what’s going to happen because now you’ve given that as your belief for the day. You’ve woken up sore. You hadn’t yet tried to walk to the bathroom and stretch. You haven’t started to try to get your energy moving to get some flow, to get some movement as lotion, that feeling and energized. You’ve immediately gone to this negative belief.
Tip #1: Partner Communication
I’m going to tell you that if you have a partner like this that is chipper in the morning and wants to ask you how you’re feeling, you can have a conversation with them and tell them, hey, I can’t have you asked that first thing in the morning because then I immediately check in with my body and if there’s something that’s uncomfortable, that’s what I’m going to focus on. And that’s my first focus of the day, not something positive. If you could just say “good morning” or something else, you can change that pattern and you can change that belief system.
Tip #2: The good or morning routine
The second thing to start changing that belief system is when you do first get up and you start moving and stretching and you know, getting a good shoulder roll and starting to stretch your arms up and stretch and back and Ooh, yeah, that felt so good. You know, you can start thinking about what’s feeling good. So focus when you first get up, do a few stretches that feel good. After. For me, the first thing I had to do was go to the bathroom first thing in the morning.
I get up, go to the bathroom stretch. Then I write down three things that I approve of my body and love about my body. Three things that I absolutely love about my life. What I’ve now done is changed my belief pattern, the belief that I’m stuck with this, the belief that this chronic pain is a life sentence.
I have changed this because I have woken up today. I have put lotion in my body because I have moved and created that lotion within myself. I have told my body three things that I love about it and I have written down three things that I love about my life that aren’t my body. So just that practice alone changes your belief in being this miserable, stuck both energy, painful existence that you’re currently living.
Your body will quickly respond to that by giving you more energy. It takes a lot of energy to be stuck in a negative thought pattern. And I know it takes energy to start shifting those patterns and those beliefs, but it’s worth it. So in all, just changing those few little things that first 10 minutes of my morning sets me up for a better day.
Is my pain still there?
Sometimes it’s there and it definitely is nagging at me. It’s definitely that annoying passenger in my car that’s like, are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet? But the reality is that when I wake up and I put all these good things in my body, so a little bit of movement and stretching just so that I start there because it feels good.
The three things I love about my body, I tell my body I love it. Thank you for getting up. You know, if you don’t have anything you love, thank your body for things. Three things, thank you for getting up and allowing me to go through my day. Thank you for getting up and allowing me to be with my family and my friends. You know, start changing your beliefs. So the card I’m going to read to you because I found it very powerful.
As you imagine and visualize and verbalize your new story in that time, you will believe the new story and when it happens, the evidence will flow so swiftly into your experience. A belief is only a thought. You continue to think, but when your beliefs match your desires, then your desires become your reality. There is no physical body, no matter what the conditions that cannot achieve an improved condition, nothing else in your experience response as quickly as your own physical body to your patterns of thoughts.
What belief are you willing to change today? If you are willing to change one belief today to make your life better. It’s that simple. So what is one small change you can make today to make it a better day, despite your chronic pain?
Have you ever gotten so low on gas that the light shows up on your dashboard?
And what happens? The light comes on, your gage looks like it’s pointing at the E for empty and maybe you panic a little.
You immediately start calculating how far it is to the next gas station and you worry that you won’t make it that far.
But you do. You feel like you’re rolling in on fumes, but in fact, there’s probably half a gallon or more left in the tank.
I know people who have done this so often, that they no longer panic when they see that light. They drive around normally until they feel like stopping at a gas station because they’ve learned that the light on the dash doesn’t really mean they’re about to be stranded.
Every car is different, but you get to know your own vehicle and how much you can push it past the warning signs.
The same is true for your body.
Your body has an early warning signal for pain that’s a lot like your out of gas dash light.
It signals you before it’s really empty because it wants you to start formulating a plan to stop.
And when it’s your car running out of gas, this is a good thing.
But when it’s your body, you need to recognize the difference between “STOP NOW” and “start planning your exit strategy.”
Because if you stop moving/exercising/running errands/cooking dinner/etc. when your body’s dash light goes on, you actually do it more harm than good.
When you stop moving around, you get stiff, you get stuck, and you end up in more pain.
If, instead, you keep moving but you have a plan for slowing down and relaxing when it’s truly time, you not only get more done in your day, but you feel less pain and recover faster too.
That’s why it’s so important to recognize what the signals in your body really mean and how to get the most mileage out of each day’s “tank of gas.”
When you’re ready to learn how to recognize the signals your body is giving you and extend the amount of fuel you have each day – so you can do more, live more, enjoy more! – watch this video and grab the worksheet:
I’ll show you what those pain signals really mean and what to do with them.